Posts Tagged ‘erotica’

Sex 2.0 conference in Atlanta 4/12

April 10, 2008

I’ll be teaching Erotica 101 at 9:30 a.m. this Saturday in Atlanta for Sex 2.0, a one-day “unconference” where you can learn everything from “Sex blogging as a feminist project” with Elizabeth Wood of to “HOWTO: Gt the most out of sex/tech” with Regina Lynn to “Sex Styles of the Internet Famous” by Melissa Gira, description below, to my friend/roommate Twanna A. Hines‘s “A Brief History of Sex.” Also, not about sex, but on Sunday at 3 p.m. I’ll be playing cupcake bingo at Sweet Pockets – stop by if you like!

On the Internet, we’re all famous to fifteen people. Inevitably, you’ll date at least one of them. So how does one gracefully navigate Relationships 2-point-whatever? Is post-coital Twittering acceptable? Should you block an ex from your Flickr? Do we need to call in a couples’ counselor to revise our Facebook relationship status together? After the breakup, who gets custody of the secret sex vlog? A seriously self-effacing facilitated discussion of social networking & managing your identity online when that comes close to and at odds with that of your lovers & partners.

Read more about it with Amber Rhea’s interview with Cory Silverberg at

Best Sex Writing 2008 contributor news

January 19, 2008

My own little news is that I walked through the Lincoln Center Barnes & Noble tonight and saw Best Sex Writing 2008 right there on the new non-fiction release table, next to my friend Judy McGuire‘s book How Not to Date. Yay!

Violet Blue (“ and Porn Hysteria: The Lie of Unbiased Reporting”) was in the news this week with her snubbing by Steve Jobs.

She’s also just announced the call for submissions for Best Women’s Erotica 2009, also published by Cleis Press, and I particularly loved this part:

Desired themes include: Women’s sexual fantasies and experiences of all kinds, such as taboo sex acts, fantasy scenarios (real or imagined), bondage, fetish, male anal penetration (such as strap-on play), first-time experiences, light S/M, exhibitionism, power-play, voyeurism, public sex, seduction, role-play, spontaneous sex, spanking, erotic punishment, sexual surprise, emotional honesty, desire, longing, lust, passion, female fierceness, power (and power struggles), deviousness, meaning, themes that involve the Internet and technology, and sublime humor. Above all, include explicit sex.

Scott Poulson-Bryant (“The Hung List” from Hung) announced news of his novel which sounds so juicy and right up my Judith Krantz-loving alley:

I’ve been getting emails from peeps since I’ve announced that my new novel The VIPs will be released by Doubleday Books in Spring 2009. I’ll give you some more details soon about the exact plot of the novel, but til then you should just know that it’s very influenced by the page-turning books I loved when I was a teenager in the 80s, like Scruples and Hollywood Wives: lots of characters, sexy shenanigans, intrigue, betrayal—yup, it’s loads of fun. At least, I should say, it has been loads of fun to create. It’s a globetrotter of a story, taking place in the Hamptons, Manhattan, Miami and London. It’s about four guys who shared a few summers in Sag Harbor in the early 80s and are now Very Important People, or so they like to think. Then the past comes back to bite them all in their asses. I’m excited to finally be done; hope you get excited to read it.

Lux Nightmare (“The Pink Ghetto”), who’s now going by Lux Alptraum, gives the lowdown on homemade porn in the latest episode of Boinkology TV:

There’s no thrill quite like getting it on — and getting off — in front of a camera. But how can you make sure that your home porn adventure won’t turn you into the next Paris Hilton (or Pamela Anderson, or Dustin Diamond, or Amy Fisher, or Joey Buttafuoco, or…)? We’ve got some advice for you in this episode of Boinkology TV.

Greta Christina (“Buying Obedience”) on “All I Really Need to Know I Learned From Porn – Or Not”

Here is a very short list of things that people will get grotesquely wrong if they get their sex education from porn.

What women’s genitals look like. This is a biggie. If you’re looking at porn video to satisfy your curiosity about what a pussy looks like — well, standards of female beauty in porn are almost as rigid with pussies as they are with basic body types, and female genital cosmetic surgery in the porn industry is getting increasingly and depressingly common.

What male genitals look like. Another biggie — literally. Every time I read a letter to a sex advice columnist from a guy complaining that his dick is pathetically small — not like the guys in the porn videos — I want to scream and bite people. Male porn actors are specifically selected for their large genitalia. They are not a statistically representative sampling. Statistically speaking, they represent the far, far end of the bell curve.

The realities of female sexual response. This may be the worst offender of the bunch. There’s already enough ignorance about what gives women sexual pleasure and what gets us off, without “porn as sex ed” adding to the mix. Look, I have no doubt that there are some women out there who don’t need foreplay, get very aroused by giving blowjobs, have intense multiple orgasms from intercourse alone, and couldn’t care less if you touched their clit. But if that’s how you’re trying to get a woman off, you’re really not playing the percentages. Trust me on this.

And it’s not out until April, but because I’m a lucky girl, I got a galley of Rachel Shukert’s new book Have You No Shame? Check out the awesome cover and pre-order it on Amazon: (and come see her, Lux, me, Miriam Datskovsky and Liz Langley at the PARTY on Tuesday at Rapture!)

Free smut with purchase!

January 16, 2008

Because I really think you’ll like Best Sex Writing 2008 as much as I do, here’s another incentive to buy it: anyone with a U.S. mailing address who buys Best Sex Writing 2008 by January 31st from gets a FREE copy, signed by me, of Sex and Candy: 22 Succulent Stories. How’s that for a deal? Just forward your entire Amazon receipt to me at rachelkramerbussel at with “BSW” in the subject line, starting from today, January 15th.

So, buy this:

Best Sex Writing 2008 cover

and get this:

Cover of my new erotica book Sex and Candy